Know thyself
If I ask people whether they think of themselves, to have good people skills, is usually "clear!" in response. I push then immediately afterwards the question: "How well do you know ? Itself "
We can not see our fellow man, as long as we know ourselves not stood before a long long time on the Temple of Apollo, the so-called Oracle of Delphi."! ER KNOW YOURSELF "
know that there are inhabitants of the earth of human nature that always say (vehemently and emphatically) is always confident of victory: "He is as guilty!" Yes, yes, for sure, blame is always the others is so much easier. . to point the pointing fingers at other people or animals But one thing is clear: Someone (! my finger me) the finger is directed towards others, three fingers unconsciously to itself That at least is an old saying, which I reproduce here in their own words. Some dare even to the point that they declare publicly: "My daughter's fault that my wife left me!" No joke. Sorry. And these are harmless examples.
victim mentality
ignore people with victim mentality, the law of resonance. Everything that happens "out there" has never done anything with them. Well, the duality is based on the bi-polarity, so you need a sacrifice always an offender. And therefore a victim of the offender. One can not exist without the other. We continue to fight, then, there's no tomorrow. Maybe put still the tenet "life is a struggle" deep in the subconscious of a people. And here begins the dilemma, because if life is a struggle, there are only winners and losers. Under no circumstances is clear from this inner attitude is a win-win situation. A service advisor, who is set internally to fight is the fight look mathematically related to its customer, and lose. Why? Quite simply, if the customer has some brains in the head, he makes on his heels and return to another customer and consultant menschenorientierteren investigated in the service sector. And thinks it might, "OK, fair enough, you win the battle - but I the war!"
EVALUATION - EVALUATION - ORDER
As long as we constantly evaluate something or someone, so we give it a value. A label. We put him in a self-selected drawer. RRRRATSCH, drawer, opinion is formed and it represents (coming of representatives) strongly its position, instead of giving himself and his fellow men a motive. Small example: Who does not know of you? Every day the sun shines, if you see them or not. We talk about the weather. Again and again, every day, you hear people say, well, whine, complain and more likely, how bad was the weather. That is nonsense. The weather is. Point. It is neither bad nor good. Solely my assessment, the weather makes you beautiful or bad. Clear the weather does not matter how it is assessed, it is easy. Is it cold, people want to get warm again. It is warm, you can hear mostly those dialogues, "Oh, the weather today is not that wonderful beautiful?" "Well, that mine is already too warm!" No few days later, when the weather cools down and rainy, the same man says: "So is my favorite too wet cold, terrible!" It's the same with us humans: we are not good or bad, we are not ugly or pretty ... we are simple. The brothers Grimm have expressed pretty long time ago:
"get it right everyone is an art that no one can. "
I think a good task might be to go to get out in nature, or wherever, the challenge for a day NOTHING AND NOBODY evaluate .. Well, this problem can potentially mutate life's work in my seminars, I often spontaneous and situational following exercise (is not mine, I know it himself years ago and learned to value): When it comes to the issue of perception, I begin the chapter with the fact that I ask a participant to put up before the group on a chair and take a position that it can meet a couple of minutes. Then I give the group following task:
"Please describe what you see these people
What does your true of him.?"
And I write fast on the flipchart with the answers. Since most statements come as "likeable, friendly, open, intelligent," etc. Then I go through again after a few minutes together the answers and ask. "Ok, So you say, this man / this woman was sympathetic How do you know the ? Where do you want to know whether the man is friendly Many mass murderers had an oh-so-brave appearance and the neighbors say in retrospect: "So you know that I would have thought of the niiie. He looked so friendly and has always nice greetings! "And how will you know if this person is open and do not know him yet. The mystery solution is to describe a human or an animal really. Just say or think what you see. In the case of the upper operator for example: "I see a man about 30 years, he has short black hair, a silver earring with the left ear, a blue shirt has to whose sleeves are rolled up, he has a light brown belt on, etc.." . That would be a description and interpretation of any communication is highly subjective
My friend Walter. (for insiders: this is not the friend of Walter-HPZ!) told me years ago, and that will take me a lifetime, "Fabrizio, you can not see the people behind the forehead!" Right has he, the love Walter. There's only one thing: sharpen his senses. Above all, our intuition.
What I do not like you ...
If we go with open eyes and ears of the world, we often hear people say: "The or that I can not stand to the death" Or: "iiih kuck times as energized as you can only .." Or: "So deeen or diiie I absolutely do not like that is always x or so y!" Well, we in our fellow human beings can only know things that are reflected to us. This means one or more properties that someone does not like another, it recognizes only because he does not like this to itself. Outside this man recognizes properties that he himself stands in resonance. It oscillates on the same wavelength. In the future, may be worth the reflection, is often times to (behind) to ask if we let ourselves be carried away to a guest: "What has something to do with me" And then comes the hardest part: completely honest with yourself. Because we always get answers within. Only if we realize this is then the other question. Therefore self-knowledge has to do with fierce honesty to himself. Then, only when we We look into the truth, we can see the world "out there" and the others also different. possibly one thought it worth it?
The tricky fellow
Josef Rattner writes in his book " The tricky fellow " aptly
" must be stated sarcastically that man has indeed overcome the distance to the moon, but still it fails to reach his fellow .
There's something to it, right?
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